Tag Archives: mentoring relationship

Humour in Mentoring

Finding the Funny Side of Mentoring When asked to describe the mentor or coach they would dread, learners typically refer at some point to the person without a sense of humour. Not surprisingly, mentors and coaches have similar feelings about trying to form developmental relationships with humourless learners. The person who is too intense, too […]

Employee-Led Mentoring

How to Support Employee-Led Mentoring Programmes One of the biggest barriers to widespread use of mentoring in organisations is HR time and focus. Lean HR teams in many companies have a wide range of urgent tasks and projects that tend to take priority over deep learning initiatives. Minimum effort solutions, involving matching platforms that put […]

Helping a Mentee Manage Uncertainty

When Uncertainty Becomes a Barrier   Much as humans generally crave certainty, we have to live with constant uncertainty.  It’s how we manage uncertainty that counts. In organisations, uncertain comes in two kinds: prediction uncertainty and decision uncertainty. Prediction Uncertainty Prediction uncertainty comes from operating in a VUCA environment, where we know that “best guesses” […]

Helping a Manager Understand His or Her Leadership Style Options

Manager Intervention: Helping managers understand their leadership style options How a manager behaves in any specific situation depends on many factors, including how much preparation time they have, but the two most significant factors are their general style preference and the range of options they have within their preference. The role of a coach or […]

What Do Mentees Fear Most?

What do mentees fear most? A mentor enters a mentoring relationship knowing she has skills and knowledge to share with her mentee.  Naturally this makes the mentor feel pretty good.  Not only is she a decent and generous person, willing to share her expertise; she is also a person of value, having expertise worth sharing. […]

What if the Coachee or Mentee Appears Delusional

What if the coachee or mentee appears delusional Although only one person in 500 is receiving treatment for a delusional disorder at any time, the rest of us are much more susceptible to bizarre and irrational beliefs than we like to admit. A recent study asking people about 17 delusional beliefs (for example: Do you […]

The Benefits of Talking to Yourself

Having a good talk with myself Walking down the street 25 years ago, the sight of someone talking to themselves would probably make you want to cross the road to avoid them. Nowadays, it is nothing strange – we assume that they are on their mobile phone. But the idea that inner conversations should not […]

5 Tips on How to Coach and Mentor Perfectionists

5 Tips on How to Coach and Mentor Perfectionists Perfectionists are driven to succeed, strive to continually improve and work hard to avoid mistakes. Particularly when you have your own perfectionist tendencies (like me) it is easy to align perfectionism with diligence, excellence and well…perfection.  In fact, habitual perfectionism is in itself an imperfection. The […]